Looking past the packaging

I came across this article, and found that it suit ur current position so i edit it and repost it(in conjunction with Wesak,Labour and my birthday)

I'd moon about, wondering why nothing romantic ever happened to me the way it did to heroines in novels. When someone showed the slightest
interest in me, I'd judge him by how he looked(ordinary) and how he
acted(normal) and refuse point blank to get to know him better. It's
easy to give the likes of DavidBeckham a chance-if you meet someone good-looking, charming and confident, it doesn't take a lot to decide whether or not you'd you go out with him-but what about the ordinary, everyday variety? The man who isn't devastatingly handsome or who's a bit shy and takes time to get to know- someone who doesn't stand out in a crowd. Why give a man like this a chance?He's obviously not your type, right?

Even as I write, I find myself drawn to someone who is so ordinary it makes me smile(ruefully).He is not arrogant or self-assured.He speaks quietly.He doesn't like arguments or fights.A pacifist, for God's sake! Is this what I've been looking for and didn't know it?When did my priorities change? Was it when i realised that i should start looking at people and not type? Judging someone not on their material worth but on how happy I am when i'm with them? This meant getting to know the man, assessing his mind, how much we might have in common, and how kind he might be, rather than his potential for getting us out of a blazing building. Most of us are looking for happy, successful relationships. But sometimes we might be looking in the wrong place entirely.This doesn't mean that you have to go out with every overwhelmingly ordinary man who asks you. There are bound to be men you don't even like.I've never seen a vile frog turn into a prince yet.(On the other hand,I've seen a lot of great looking 20-year-olds who've lost their lustre- and gained a few kilos- by the time they're 30) We all have an ideal lover tucked away somewhere in the corner of our hearts. But let's just say you get the prince. Is he what you really wanted or was it just the idea that appealed to you?

To give someone a chance you have to be prepared to take one, even if it means going out for lunch with a guy who's okay, but isn't ruggedly handsome with a dangerous glint in his eye. And don't judge him till you've learned a bit more about him. Of course, he might just turn out to be as excruciatingly boring as you thought in the first place. Or, he may not. But you'll never find out unless you give him a chance